None of us love everything we do, but should we? Who loves folding laundry or doing dishes or washing the car? In our daily jobs there is also the minutiae of tasks which we may come to dread, but focusing on what we don’t like robs us of the joy of what we do like. Let me be very clear. I do not find unloading the dishwasher intrinsically satisfying. I have, however, learned to enjoy the task. You may be thinking I am nuts. What could possibly turn the task of sorting silverware in a cabinet drawer satisfying?
Before I tell you my secret, let me tell you this: In your job, as well, there is a way to become a turnaround specialist, infusing the most mundane tasks with fresh enthusiasm. It’s not as hard as you might think. Begin with focusing on the positive. I am thankful for a dishwasher. You may be thankful to have a job. Pretty, basic, huh? But what happens when we don’t consciously practice positivity?
The opposite is getting caught in a loop of negativity. I know this isn’t the month on reading great books, but did you ever happen to pick up Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children? It’s a page turner about a boy who enters a time loop of children living in the WWII era. They live and relive a single day every single day, but when the boy discovers the loop things begin to change. It is inevitable.
A loop of negativity is a consistent replay of all the things you don’t like about your job. If you allow it to continue, it will come to dominate your mind and change your outlook. It boils down to this: would you rather live in a world of gray or in amazing technicolor? Success magazine offers you several tips on breaking that destructive cycle.
- First of all, look at your circle of friends. Somewhere in your bubble there may be a Debbie Downer who complains when things don’t go as planned. That person opens a negative zone in your mind, just by being in contact and listening to his/her fount of negativity. Spend less time with that person.
- Learn posispeak. You may not have heard of that term. It’s pronounced posi (as in positive) and speak (I think we all know this word). You may not have heard of posispeak because I just made it up. It’s your new term for rephrasing the negative. “You can’t put that display there,” is rephrased into “I’d love to put it in a better place with more traffic. What is your suggestion?” I hope you see the difference because there isn’t any point in belaboring the topic.
In the course of life we enjoy more opportunities to employ posispeak than to enjoy what we expected to happen, don’t we? Life is full of disappointments, irritations and people messing up our plans. That’s a given. Remaining positive in the face of all that negativity is what helps you learn to love what you do.
Before you dismiss this article as just too much sunshine on a cloudy day, ask yourself a basic question: Are you happier when you are enmeshed in negativity? If you’re honest, you’ll admit you are not. Negativity robs us of joy. Does posispeak change anything? People are just as annoying. Opposition still happens. The only thing changed is you. You are happier, and don’t you deserve to feel happy? I don’t know about you, but markers and a cool caddy make me smile!
I think we all deserve a happier life, so the first step in loving what you do is learning to be a turnaround specialist when things go from bad to worse. Begin by opening your mouth and saying something positive. Yes, it’s just that simple.